I believe that self-love is meant to have different definitions to different people. How you interpret what self-love is, is going to depend on many factors including; how you were raised, your values, your relationship status and where you are in your healing journey. This is where the “self” comes in, not only is self-love about learning how to love yourself but it is also an extremely personalized experience that will never look the same to every person. This is the beauty of self-love, it is love that we get to decide how it shows up in our world.

Now , I am not saying that letting go of mom guilt is easy… actually it is really hard, but many things that are important are challenging. Like taxes, and setting boundaries with your mother in law. Challenging, but important. Here are some steps I found really helped us let go of the guilt of leaving Logan with Grandma and Grandpa for the first time as Steve and I fell in love with San Francisco and each other with our new titles of Mom and Dad.

The changes in this picture are subtle to our eyes but massive to our subconscious. We are conditioned to always want to look a little different, because how could a society that profits off our insecurities survive if we loved ourselves?